Did you know that in our core essence we want only two things – to be loved and to be appreciated? We have so called ‘love tank’ that need to be fulfilled with love in order for us to feel loved and there are five ways to do that, Dr. Gary Chapman says.
Everyone of us feels loved in a different way and the trick is that the way we like to feel loved, is the same way we give love back. The challenge occurs when our partners, friends or colleagues don’t feel loved in the same way as us.
So, you do your best to show love to someone you love and then they don’t feel loved. What? How is that possible? It’s easier than you may think.
Dr. Gary Chapman has discovered that we have five “love languages”, five ways we like to receive and give love:
1. Words of affirmation – we feel loved when we hear words of affirmation: “you look really nice”, “you are really good at cooking, thank you” or “thank you for picking up the kids” etc..
2. Quality time – we feel loved when we are spending quality time with person we love: spending a weekend together with your partner, renting bicycles and riding together or sitting in a park watching nature, etc…
3. Receiving gifts – we feel loved when we receive gifts, small or big: flowers, a smart phone application, a stone or a book, etc…
4. Acts of service – we feel loved when someone does something for us: takes out rubbish, cleans the apartment or cooks a dinner, etc…
5. Physical touch – we feel loved when we get a physical touch: reaching out and holding your spouse’s hand, giving a hug in presence of others or giving your spouse a shoulder massage…
When you learn your partner’s love language and you give them love in their love language, they will always feel loved. This is the best way to show love to any person you love. So pay attention and make sure you finds out what their love language is.
Same applies in the workplace, with on difference, a person love language in private life may be deferent then in the workplace environment. Dr Chapman calls them languages of appreciation. Again, the easiest way to make your employees feel appreciated is to show them appreciation in THEIR love language.
Now that you know how people like to feel loved, what is your next step? What is your love language?
“How do we meet each other’s deep emotional need to feel loved? If we can learn and choose to do it, then the love we share will be exciting beyond anything you ever felt when we were infatuated” – Dr. Gary Chapman
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